Monday, November 9, 2009

I Kissed Dating Goodbye; Looking up "Love" in God's Dictionary

Looking up "Love" in God's Dictionary

The world's definition of love:

Love is primarily for the fulfillment and comfort of self........and is primarily a feeling.



God's definition of love:

Love is not for the fulfillment of self, but for the good of others and the glory of God......and true love is not measured or governed by feeling.



Bethany-

In the beginning of this chapter, we see two very different couples, Jeff & Gloria and Eric and Leslie. They exhibit two very different kinds of "love", one selfish and sensual, the other committed, sincere, selfless and responsible. Today's society is telling us that 'love' is sexual, but how many couples do we see breaking up constantly? I personally have always admired the approach Leslie and Eric took. I personally know a couple who did something similar, a "hands-off courtship". I was only 10 at their wedding, but I can still feel the joy when they clasped hands for the first time. Every time I've seen them since.....they are still holding hands and are still deeply in love. They are committed, sincere, selfless and responsible. I quote the closing statement of this chapter....

"If dating causes us to practice selfish, feeling-governed love, that's contrary to God's love, we must kiss dating goodbye. We must stop trying to fit God's ideas into what the lifestyles society has defined for us and allow His values and attitudes to redefine the way we live."

Jenna-
"The love we practice in dating not only shows the world Christ's love; it also prepares us for our future relationships. As we relate to others today, we form patterns that we'll take with us into our marriages. For this reason, we must practice not only sincere love but also commitment-based love." Pg 71

I was encouraged to set my commitment of Purity and Love to a high level. Not to be legalistic, but because it's from my heart. I don't want to walk into marriage with a bag of trash on my back, filled with all kinds of bad dating habits, and bad choices. Instead, I seek to glorify God with my future marriage relationship and keep myself pure for then. Can you imagine how much easier that would be, and the amount of trust that you could build if you don't have the bag of trash?! We must practice Sincere love and also Commitment based Love.

Josh-
"In the same way, as Christians, we model God's love, whether or not we realize it. People watch us, and what they see affects God's reputation for loving His creation. If we claim to follow Christ then wear the worlds twisted style of love, we drag the name and character of our Lord in the dirt.
For this reason, we must ask ourselves, "Am I modeling the Love of Christ? Do my motivations and actions in this relationship reflect the perfect love God has shown me?" How would you answer those questions right now?"
Pg. 66

I totally agree with this. If we call ourselves Christians, people begin to asess our actions and life as a picture to describe a Christian. If we call ourselves Christians, but act in the same way of the world, people see no difference in us and we have no testimony for the Lord.

Please share your thoughts!

In Christ,
~Bethany, Josh and Jenna~

22 comments:

Eldarwen Failariel said...

I completely agree with all of you. :)

p.s. I voted on your poll. I have the updated version.

Bethany said...

That is really good comparing the two definitions for love. And if we are true Christians we should want to go with God definition.

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